Have you ever felt life was sending you a message? I did the other day when I picked up a magazine in the grocery store that had “Let It Go” on the front cover. That was followed by getting in the car to return home, turning on the radio and hearing the song “Let It Go.” Shortly after that I went to a meeting of women writers and one woman shared her very personal story of “Letting It Go.” It was definitely time for me to check in with myself! It didn’t take long for me to think of a situation I have relived repeatedly in my mind wishing the outcome had been different. There was an “aha” moment when I realized carrying around burdens from the past (grudges, irritations, resentments) is a total waste of precious time and energy and serves no positive purpose. It was time to let it go!
In his book A New Earth, Eckhart Tolle tells the story of two Zen monks: Tanzan and Ekido were walking along a country road that had become extremely muddy after heavy rains. Near a village they came upon a young woman who was trying to cross the road, but the mud was so deep it would have ruined the silk kimono she was wearing. Tanzan at once picked her up and carried her to the other side.
The monks walked on in silence. Five hours later, as they were approaching the lodging temple, Ekido couldn’t restrain himself any longer. “Why did you carry that girl across the road?” he asked. “We monks are not supposed to do things like that.”
“I put the girl down hours ago,” said Tanzan. “Are you still carrying her?”
The choice is ours. We can relive what happened hours, days, weeks, and sometimes years ago thinking our resentments (remember: resentment is drinking poison and expecting the other person to die) are right and justified. Or we can say to ourselves, “I now know this person can’t be trusted or is disrespectful, or toxic, but I don’t need to replay the details of their behavior in my mind anymore.” This takes some practice before it comes easily, but letting it go is freeing to every part of our body, mind, and spirit. It enables us to live this moment more fully and is an act of healthy self-love. Brigitte Nicole said, “One of the most courageous decisions you’ll ever make is to finally let go of what is hurting your heart and mind.”
Oprah Winfrey sums this up well with this quote: “If you can’t love it, eat it, wear it, make peace with it, gain strength from it, or find joy in it, the time has come to let it go!” I couldn’t have said it better myself. My new mantra is “Let It Go” and I can already feel the difference. Let me know in the comment section if you are having any Let It Go experiences – let’s encourage each other because, after all, this one of the many the ways we support each other as Friends After Diagnosis.
Until Next Time – Sylvia