“You Raise Me Up” is the title of a song with lyrics by Irish songwriter Brendan Graham. The song took time to come to America, but when it did interpretations by artists like Josh Groban touched an emotional chord of appreciation. Here are the words to the chorus:
You raise me up, so I can stand on mountains
You raise me up to walk on stormy seas
I am strong when I am on your shoulders
You raise me up: To more than I can be.
They say we are stronger and more powerful together. We overcome challenges well together. Together we can accomplish more than we can individually. When we support each other we are at our very best. We do this for each other, and our Higher Power does this for us every day. You can listen to the song here.
As human beings we are wired for nurturing relationships, so it’s difficult to watch all the negativity and tearing down of others that is currently predominant in our media programing. Destructive behavior injures us all, but the opposite is also true: When we empower, support, and encourage each other, we diffuse the negative and raise the vibrational frequencies of ourselves and everyone around us. As Robert Ingersoll writes, “We rise by lifting others.”
Recently my husband and I had a conversation about all the times we have lifted each other up during our marriage so we could accomplish something significant that would not have otherwise happened. We only did these things because we took turns standing on each other’s shoulders and supporting each other through stormy seas.
It’s a privilege to enjoy the companionship of people we love, so here are a few ideas about how we can raise each other up. We lift each other up when we can live in our own incredible worth without having to put someone else down. Treating each other with kindness and compassion builds love and support for everyone around us.
Raising up happens when we treat people with respect. This means having zero tolerance for abusive talk, gossip, or bullying. We remove our self from media that specializes in being mean and from people who trash-talk. Thinking before we speak means our words come from a thoughtful place, and we honor any confidence that is shared so it goes no further.
Verbally sharing and applauding each other’s successes lifts everyone involved. Encouraging words are an expression of presence and sincerity. Lifters love to share knowledge in the form of helpful articles, books, or tools on the web when it offers an inspiring discovery, new learning, or an appropriate application to our life.
We build each other up when we stay humble, no matter how much we accomplish. When we feel secure we don’t need to brag, and everyone around us is treated with equality. We’re positive in a way that is contagious because we’re open to the benefits of differences and the potential in change.
Lifting up requires being quick to forgive and taking the time to understand the whole story. Understanding means being a careful listener, accepting what is being shared, and answering without judging. Raising up also needs patience. Joyce Meyer writes, “Patience is not simply the ability to wait – it’s how we behave while we’re waiting.”
We raise each other highest when we love. The attributes of love bring out the best in all of us because love is not easily angered, is not self-seeking; it’s kind, patient, hopeful, perseveres, protects, respects, and honors truth. Those are all ingredients for thriving. Jim Stovall writes, “You need to be aware of what others are doing, applaud their efforts, acknowledge their successes, and encourage them in their pursuits. When we all help one another, everybody wins.”
This is what Friends After Diagnosis does for everyone involved, no matter what the challenge may be. We’re in a long haul with COVID so let’s continue to raise each other up. Together we can walk this stormy sea. Together we can stand on each other’s shoulders and be strong. Together we are so much more than we can be alone.
Until Next Time – Sylvia